Flow
When life reflects mostly struggle with no release or way to drop into the "deep now" then Flow is where we must begin. Flow is our doorway into depth.
Undertow, 6 weeks of Men investigating what's below the surface
Only you know what's living inside of you.
And the moment it gets witnessed by another, it becomes REAL.
Modern day males are facing a timeless, important & unavoidable choice. Conform or abide within mainstream masculine culture... or show up for the required growth to become the Men our Women & children need us to be.
Let's drop in for 6 weeks and do the work!
Who is this for?
- You tell yourself you're fine and you've been fine for years.
(p.s. - under the surface you're not fine.) - You find it harder and harder to participate in "The Good Ol' Boys Club."
- You're tired of giving your LifeForce over to (Lust, Addiction, Comparison, Greed, Social Status, Distractions, Pride)
- The way you've learned to process emotions is unsustainable or ineffective.
- You see Our World struggling to answer Life's Biggest Questions and find deeper meaning.
Guess what? You're not alone... And you don't have to call yourself emotional, spiritual, or woke to do this. Most dudes who start this style of work have no language for it. If you've got a penis, a pulse, and a hunch that there's more under the surface of modern day Masculinity, My Friend, this is for you.
Undertow
An intentional 6 week community built for the humbled man ready to Surv what's underneath.
Surv
As we drop into deeper layers of self we will learn to Surv what comes up instead of resisting or getting dragged down by it. Learn to name an emotion, locate it, stay with it, and then Surv or release it.
Us
We drop in and Flow Together. Real-Time Growth in the company of Brothers. This is soulful call and response jazz when we get there.
Being connected & growing together. This is Humanity's timeless technology for processing Life's deepest aspects... not ai
The Work Flow
New weekly material drops every Monday. You work on it solo for a few days, then we go deep together on Wednesday nights. Each week builds on the last.
Week 1Drop In
Map what's living under the surface.
Where is your energy actually going? What do you avoid feeling? How do you drop into flow? Where are you blocked? What would you like to see change in these next 6 weeks?
Claiming our commitments & establishing our baseline
Week 2Into the Body
Flow is our doorway.
How do you rekindle & maintain your rhythm? What's your relationship to your body? How skilled are you at regulating your nervous system in real-time? What does peak physical embodiment look and feel like for you?
Explore state shifting techniques & our relationship to the physical
Week 3Healthy Emotional Processing
Name it, locate it, stay with it, release it.
Emotional literacy for men who were never taught it. We explore alternative ways for men to relate & process our emotions. How to work with stuck energy. How to safely access our subconscious. How to stay present with challenging emotions. How to actually release and work with our unwanted emotions.
Action Empathy vs. Emotional Empathy
Week 4Dancing with Our Shadow
Be aware of your shadow, or beware your shadow.
Exploring "the parts" of you that grab the wheel: the anger, the lust, the scroll, the drink. What is each one protecting for us? Discuss how we can bring these unconscious parts into the light and consciously dance with them.
Real-time pattern interrupts and learning to move with them
Week 5Witnessing
The moment it gets witnessed, it becomes real.
Saying the quiet parts out loud. Surfacing our competing commitments (Undertow). Locating the OBTs that would move us forward. How do we show up when Life calls us forth?
One hard conversation you've been avoiding, Eating Death Cookies!
Week 6The Infinite Game
Remember who YOU are! There is no finish line.
How to recognize if you're actually growing or just mentally masturbating. What does success personally look like for you? How to reach new peaks & deeper depths sustainably. Holding it all. Growing through the seasons & cycles of life. Eternal brotherhood and accountability moving forward.
Integrating your conscious & competing (shadow) commitments to earn Wisdom.
Run on myself first.
Hey, I'm Dylan. I'm not a guru and I haven't mastered anything. I'm a dude committed to learning from experience, with a promise to share only what I've lived.
I’ve poured my heart & soul into personal development for the past 8 years. I can now translate how I went from an ego-centered boy carrying shame and addictive behaviors into a heart-centered surfer of the Infinite Game.
The inner work I'll be sharing is what allowed me to understand & deeply connect with the most important woman in my Life just before she died. I love you Mom!
Today, I still dance with a ton of emotional conflict, but the way it's getting processed is more sustainable.
Due to my own insecurity, I wasn't always called to lead this style of work...
However, I now recognize it as the change I most wish to see in our World.
The "undertow" represents our invisible, and often unconscious, competing commitments that keep us stuck.
What's this going to look like?
Six weeks of intentional inner work + weekly live gatherings to train & grow together.
Part 1: Solo Work
Explore the new material SOLO
At the beginning of each week you'll gain access to new material that will challenge you to reflect & grow. You'll have a few days to review, meditate, and work with the material individually before we meet as a group.
Tools for success
You'll also have access to daily accountability tools & ongoing support via our community platform.
First Day of Course and Access to Material
Monday, October 26th.
Part 2: Group Flow
Live calls
We'll meet weekly over Zoom as a full group.
- First Live Group CallOctober 28th, 6:00pm, PST
- Weekly CallsWednesdays, 6:00pm, PST
- Closing callDecember 2nd, 6pm, PST
Accountability
Show up for the live call having explored the week's content willing to be present, speak ONLY when spoken through, and remaining open to everyone having their own experience.
Part 3: The Infinite Game
Assets you keep after week six
Our group flow recordings, the course material, ongoing access to the Surv community, and most importantly your own earned wisdom.
Your investment.
Starts (Oct. 26th) · 15 seats max
Founding Cohort
$150
+ Lifetime access to Skool community.
+ Lifetime access to Ego | Amigo journaling course.
+ A week 7 bonus call (personal 1:1 creative flow session)
Only you'll know the true cost of inactivity...
CommitQuestions and Answers.
How much time does this take?
One live call a week (90 mins) from 6 to 7:30 pm PST.
Solo Time Investment (30 mins) a week.
Roughly 2 hours per week.
I've never done anything like this. Is that a problem?
No. Most men haven't. Are you ready to be one of the courageous few who does?
Is this therapy?
No. It's personal development and healthy accountability. Plenty of guys do this alongside therapy and the two work well together, but one doesn't replace the other.
Why men only?
We are facing a unique and unavoidable choice to show up for our women & children. I believe our collective work starts here.
Do I have to share everything?
You share only what you choose to. Nobody gets put on the spot. What's said in the group stays in the group, and every man agrees to that before we begin.
When are the live calls?
Every Wednesday at 6pm PST starting October 28th and ending on December 2nd.
What if I miss a week?
Life happens. Tell the group ahead of time, catch up in the community space, and come back the next week. Recordings will be posted for you to watch asynchronously.
What if I want a refund?
If it doesn't feel right or resonate just let me know and the refund is yours.
Straight up: this is coaching and peer support. It is not therapy, and it's not a substitute for medical or mental health treatment. If you're in crisis, please reach out to a licensed professional, or call or text 988 in the US.
You're done saying it's fine.
The people you love deserve all of you and so do you.
Come join the others.
I'll see you in there!
Dylan
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